inside the mind of the mom next door

We went shopping for nursery decor.  We continue to get gifts – both new and hand-me-downs.  I find myself constantly arranging and decorating the nursery.  I told Wendy that Hope’s room is a revolving door of mess.  She replied with,

Hopes room

“It always will be.”

Wow!  That made me take a deep breath, or maybe I stopped breathing for a minute.  I think about babies all the time.  I think about holding, changing, feeding, changing, dressing, bathing, and changing this baby.  Sometimes, when I see a toddler, I think about being the mother of a toddler.  If I see a child, teenager, or young adult, I do not think of myself as being a parent to a person that age.  I think that’s all right.  One step at a time.  We will have our hands full as it is.  There is no reason to rush.

The nursery is decorated enough to look cute and like it belongs to Hope.  The changing table is functional with diapers, lotions, and diaper genie in handy locations.  The bassinet is ready.  The bathtub is put together.  We made the strollers ready to hold the baby carrier.  We tested the audio monitor.  It’s awesome!  Car seat bases are going in the cars this week.  I’m picking up the glider today.  As you can see, there has been a lot of constructing and putting together.  I even made that darn paper mache mold of Wendy’s pregnant belly.  It is unfinished, and I don’t think I am the one who is going to reinforce or decorate the belly cast.  Of course, I didn’t think I would be the one to make it either.

We went to the doctor for another ultrasound last Friday.  Hope’s estimated measurement is 7lbs, 6oz.  Hope is lower in Wendy’s belly and putting more pressure on her cervix and her BLADDER.  I have never seen anyone use the bathroom so often.

Wendy is scheduled to have a c-section on April 27th.  Haters, don’t judge.  The first thing the doctor told Wendy is that her pelvis bone is small and narrow.  I doubt mine is.  He said that delivering a baby over 6 pounds would be difficult and potentially traumatizing for the baby, Wendy, or both.  He said he would give Wendy the pros and cons of vaginal delivery.  Ultimately, it would be her decision.  Then, came the gestational diabetes diagnosis and the real possibility of the baby’s size being above average.  We were given more pro’s and con’s.  Even though Wendy would love to have a vaginal delivery, it has been calming to know what to expect and when to expect it.

I thought.  Hope is showing signs of not wanting to wait until April 27th.  Wendy is showing signs of not wanting to wait.  Although it is against my core beliefs, we might not stick to the original schedule.  I want to give you a heads up on a possible subject for a future entry.  It would not be unusual for me to faint during a medical procedure.

If you don’t know my background, here are a few things I have done in the past.  I fainted and almost fell off the examination table the first time I saw my knee after ACL reconstruction.  I almost fell out of the chair after having 2 moles removed.  I had to lay in the floor and prop my feet on a bench after cutting my leg while shaving.  Recently, I had to lay down and use a cold compress after having a mole removed.  My most famous moment of weakness was in 1987 when I blacked out at the U2 concert when I witnessed a guy get his teeth knocked out in a fight.  I was lifted and passed over the crowd and thrown up on the stage for the EMS to take me to their triage with a bunch of drunk and drugged people.  Yes, I have body surfed while unconscious.

I am mentally preparing for the experience of being in the room during major abdominal surgery.  I will make sure that all the doctors and nurses know that I don’t want to see anything.  I will wait and see that baby when they bring it over for Wendy to see.  Hopefully, I won’t need my own nurse during the birth.


Comments on: "Finishing Touches" (9)

  1. Billy H said:

    When I went in with Amanda for Hollis’ and Franklin’s births, there was a big sheet/tent that shielded Amanda from seeing anything. The sheet covered her from the shoulders up, so the Drs could do their business from shoulders down. The Anesthesiologist was on our side of the sheet making sure everything was going ok (so you could actually have a conversation with that Dr.) There are a few other nurses and assistants running around doing various things. It’s bright and cold and they pump oxygen in there like it’s a Las Vegas casino, so the energy level is already multiplied by about 10 fold. Not to mention the fact that a baby is about to come into the world under your care!
    I could have stayed kneeling/sitting beside Amanda, I suppose. BUT when the Dr started saying “oh, here he comes,” and “wow, this is a big boy,” then everyone else in the room starts getting really excited – my curiosity got the better of me and I poked my head over the sheet to see everything. I even took some pictures, you may recall from the Picassa site.
    You, on the other hand, will want to stay behind that sheet-screen at all costs.

  2. Michelle said:

    C-Sections aren’t so bad. In fact, I would pick that any day! Just make sure that she takes the pain meds and walks the entire time she is in the hospital! WALK!

  3. Leslie L said:

    God, I love this blog Lisa! I am getting SO EXCITED! Can’t wait to hear the birth story…grab yourself a stool, girl…and hang out by Wendy’s head. 🙂
    You will be so in love with that little girl — I am bubbling over just thinking about you and Wendy holding her! Keep us posted if you think she’s going to show early!

  4. I’ve always heard you can’t pass out while sitting down, maybe they will at least give you a seat down by Wendys head, with pillows all around.

    This is so exciting!! Your baby girl will be here before you know it.

    Do you plan to blog about the beginning process? In the beginning stages of all of this, I am trying to learn as best I can important things to do, and also what to avoid. Picking out the perfect cryobank seems to be a feat in of itself!

    • I’m pretty sure I can pass out in any position. I’m not going to pass out though. I plan on blogging about our adventure in parenthood. I hope I get the time and the occasion to reflect and write about the process of getting pregnant. Nothing is perfect. It took a lot of perseverance and strength. It took 24 months, 3 donors, 8 inseminations, 3 minor surgeries, 1 miscarriage, and over $20,000 to get where we are today. BTW, we used xytex.

      • oh heavens! It is no wonder you are naming your baby girl Hope! I am interested in reading about your journey. Needless to say, Hope has been a long time coming. So happy for you guys!!

  5. Tiffany Stoots said:

    Have 2 c-sections, 1 scheduled, the other not, I understand the feelings of really wanting to have a vaginal birth. I think it was harder for me mentally trying to push for so long then eventually ending up having the c-section. I felt like a big fat failure (major prego hormones didn’t help). Even though Audrey was scheduled, I still wish “well maybe I could’ve tried a VBAC”. But then again, if it didn’t work again, I would’ve been very upset again. I realize having the 2nd scheduled c-section was the best decision, as much as my mind always wonders. Everything will work out fine. And I’m soooo excited to meet Hope when she comes!

  6. Amanda said:

    It would actually be a major blessing for Hope and Wendy if they got to experience a little labor before the c-section. They’d both benefit from the oxytocin and other hormonal releases, and the contracting helps squeeze fluid out of the baby’s lungs.
    I just left Wendy a message, but I’ll say it here, too… Get some Granny Panties!! They give you these crazy fishnet-like mesh panties in the hospital, and they are so ugly, but SO comfortable. Bikini-style underwear do NOT feel good against that incision. Take as many pairs of those mesh panties home as you can (and get the giant hospital pads, too!).
    Michelle said C-Sections aren’t so bad, but in my experience they were miserable – partially because they were both unplanned, and I didn’t really know what to expect or how to prepare properly, but partially because, well, recovering from major abdominal surgery is hard enough without a fresh, sweet little one to want to bend over backwards for.
    If Wendy’s well-rested before the procedure and starts walking immediately afterwards and doesn’t lift anything heavier than Hope for the first SEVERAL weeks, she’ll be okay. I would also reading up on some sort of abdominal binding. Unfortunately, I did NOT know this even existed and did NOT do this with Hollis or Franklin. My abs have grown back together in the weirdest way, and I now only have about 25% of the core strength that I had before Frankie. Pilates has helped a lot, but I think I would’ve done a LOT better if I would’ve had abdominal binders:

    It might help to just be prepared for some of these other aspects of the c-section that the doctors, books, and friends don’t often share: the bizarreness of the lack of feeling from the epidural; the common side-effects of shakiness, nausea, and extreme cold sensitivity during and immediately after the surgery; the potential for UTIs after the catheter removal (start right away with the cranberry juice!); the ingrown hairs popping through the glue and stitches for months; the first BM after surgery (In fact, that was WAY worse for me than all of the contractions combined. If they offer an enema at the hospital, take it!); the numbness in the incision for months afterwards; and the strange new smiley face scar along the bottom of the belly that just doesn’t ever look the same way it used to… Of course, having the precious little prize to show for all that torture makes it all worthwhile. :o)

    Love y’all. I Hope this wasn’t a downer… my intent is to try to help inform so there will be fewer surprises during this journey.

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